The reason women are considered whores when they sleep around, and why men are not.

By society men are looked at as beasts, and the more dominate over women. So most men have this beast like tendency about them, they have this big appetite for destruction, a beast will be more on the ignorant and weak minded side of things.

So it is expected for a man to want to have every women he sees, but those are the bad type of men, and despite what you women think, all men are not the same, their are good men, and
the good men are the ones who
don't have a beast like quality, or have more control over their beast like qualities. They seek out to break the cycle of the bad type of men.

But by society women are looked at as more of the classy/elegant type. They are queens of the world, and a queen is supposed to be classy, and elegant at all times while she protects her thrown. She is always self respectful, she is the opposite of a beast.
So when women go out and
have sex with many men we naturally see them as whores, because they're showing qualities of a beast, and they're not supposed to have that
quality.

Another problem is, when men go out, and have sex with many women, you instantly blame the man, but the man can not have sex with those women unless those women open their legs for
that man.

A man can not do nothing that you don't allow him to do. When a man is out having sex, of course he wants it, but remember, he's also giving the woman something she wants, so basically a man who is out looking for sex is basically going out trying to find a woman who is just like him, so if you're having sex with that man, and
you don't know him well, then
you're just like him, meaning you're a beast too.
But the question is: "Are you comfortable with that?" Because if you're comfortable with it, then that means, that's naturally who you are. But of course society is not going to understand that, and they will continue to judge you, but understand, the only thing that makes you a whore is society's opinion.

But what our society needs to understand is that, some people are naturally free, and emotionally detached, and therefore don't have emotions tied to sex, and they never will, which means they never will believe in settling down and finding love. Maybe you fall in that category, if you do fall in that category, and want to continue to live your wild, emotionless sex life, then you have to stop worrying about what society is going to think of you, and
just be true to yourself.
Another thing is, theirs some women who complain about women being judged for sleeping around, my advice to you is that, if you feel you're not that type of woman who wants to sleep around, then you need to stop
complaining.

Because if you think about it, the women who actually complain about women being judged if they sleep around, are mainly the ones who have a high desire to sleep around themselves.

And the reason they're complaining, is because they're angry with the rules of society, because those rules are
allowing them to be restricted
from the sleeping around they want to do.

Basically they're angry with the man getting away with it, because they want to get away with it.
If you're a woman, and you're reading this right now with disagreement, and thinking: "I'm not that type of woman I just get angry that men have it differently than us", well you need to stop
getting angry, and complaining, cause to everybody else you're
going to look like you're one of
those women.

For those women if you have a natural mind that screams to live a wild, and promiscuous life, (if that's truly who you are), then you have to say "screw society!, imma do me"

But if you're going to do this, you have to keep yourself in that same
circle of men who are just like you, you can't go around taking
advantage of these men who want something deeper than sex, cause once you sacrifice yourself to just sex, you have to understand that the good men who actually want something real are off limits now, unless you find
something real with one of the guys you're having sex with.

****Next I will like to examine this three month rule plan that a lot of women are starting to incorporate into their lives.****

If you have a three month rule, then that basically means you're setting a date to get something done, and that you have a plan to get something done.

But what you need to realize is that, you can't plan a sexual encounter with someone you plan on being with forever, because sex don't last forever, but an emotional, and mental connection can last a life time.

You're giving yourself a three month rule because you're scared your going to be called a whore, if you do it too fast. But what you need to understand is that, their's no time limit in getting to know someone to the point where you're ready to have sex with them. If you're the type who is searching for a true emotional, and mental connection then you know it's going to take longer than three months to give yourself to him physically. If you're truly about something deeper then you're not supposed to set time limits to when you explore the physical side.

Coming into a relationship with a three month rule is like saying: "Im a whore, but I have to wait three months before I act on it, because i'm not out of the closet with being one just yet, and i'm scared society is going to judge me."

But after three months they know they can be as nasty as they want to be, without being called a whore, because if someone questions them about it, they can just tell em that they waited 3
months.

Most people say three months, but don't even last three months because they're too anxious to get it done. People stop being like this, if you know you're only about sex, stop wasting time
with that fake relationship, and
give that at least a week, and just start having sex, a three month rule is wasting your time, and his if you know you just want sex.

Society is the reason for all of this, but some have already said "To
hell with society, screw you!, Im going to have sex," others are too
timid, and hide behind the three month rule or less, so they can still
satisfy their needs, but in a way that saves them from judgement.

But actually if you think about it, a person with a three month rule is just like a person with one night stand. But the difference is that, the one night stander doesn't have a conscious associated with sex, and they're less emotionally attached, and often free spirited, and won't believe in love or feel it, they're untamed people.

But the three month ruler is the opposite, which means they're more likey to believe in love, or feel it. But they're still weak minded and naive about the whole love thing, that's why they set a three month rule for sex,
and not wait longer. They set the three month rule, because they have high sex drives, so they need a relationship that's going to
compliment that. And the three month rule works well.

They want love, but the sex is going to validate their happiness, and be the main reason behind their love. Since the three month rule is a rule that's accepted by society, they take advantage of it, by hiding behind it to pursue their sexually based relationship. They're also allowing it to validate their self respect.

And the one night stander is emotionally detached, therefore, they're not going to have any emotions towards love, or even believe in it's existence.

That's why it's so easy for them to run around and have sex like that.
An emotionally detached person doesn't do well in relationships, but if they some how got into one, they would have to find inner strength to make themselves stay, and it's either going to be a three month rule, or no rules at all.

****Open relationships****

A lot of times a one night stander gets involved in what our society
refers to as "open relationships"
They're called open relationships, cause they're not meant to be
relationships in the first place. They call them open because they can't settle down and they can't stop fooling around so they find someone just like them so they can fall in love freely with that physical connection.

They know they can't be in a closed relationship cause their's a risk of cheating, so they open it up so they can continue to engage in all the fun fantasies, they basically find someone who can accept them for them, and find a way to love them based on their physical connection. It's just high sex drive, and a need to fulfill different types of fantasies sexually.
Kind of like a sexual addiction to different sexual encounters, or
fantasies, but not sex itself, cause
obviously they can get sex from
each other. In this type of relationship it has to be two
people who can admire each other's personalities so they
can coexist in a healthy way.

Basically they're together so they can use each other sexually, and
love, and treat each other just like an accessory, basically material
love, and the sex is the material. It is possible for them to develop a
true love for each other, but I think it's rare.

*****Article summary*****

People deserve to be with people who have similar mentalities as them, so if you only want one night stands, then please stay away from people who want more cause you will be cheating them out of getting the true
love that they deserve. And that's how a lot of the heartbreaks happen today. I'm only preferring to the one night stander, because the three month ruler, even though weak minded and
confused, they still have desires for a real relationship, most of the time.

Jason lamorris rivers Copyright ©2011

poem-A tribute to tornado victims

Through out our cities,
And our small towns,
We lost so many victims,
To that siren sound,

That dark green sky,
The sound of that train,
Which begins with a watch,
Then a warning remains,

If you never been in their position,
And If it always passes you through,
It's easy for you to say,
It won't happen to you,
But on a dark fiery day,
the sound can suddenly get new,

A lot scarier,
Than you've ever heard before,
It can be the first time,
That it stands right outside
Your door,

The glass will be shattered,
Objects will be falling,
Cars will be flying inside the sky,
The darker it gets,
The more you will cry,

You will scream not today,
You can't die today,
You've always thought
You had more time,

You will think about the times,
You prepared for this before,
In schools you're taught to
get in hall ways,
And get on the floor,

And to cover your heads,
To protect from debris,
Close your eyes,
Just pray you can see,

An ending to the madness,
That is outside your door,
But those are drills,
This is real,

You can hear the freight,
Outside window pain,
Whooshing like waterfalls,
The howl of hurricanes,

beauitful young girls,
Ambitious young men,
Little babies,
And someone's best friend,

Are all looking around,
Like this could be the day,
As you hear it's destruction around your way,

You're cuddled up in a group,
But it feels like it calls your name,
The panic sets in,
When you hear the wheels of the train,

Coming off it's tracks,
Heading for your position,
With a tremendous roar,
With intent for affliction,

It happens so quickly
You're either dead or alive,
You never wanted to die,
But at that moment,
You stare in eyes,

You hold hands tight,
and recite the lord's prayer,
And you let nature take you,
To where you're supposed to be,
And you say those three words
As distressed as you may be,
If today is the day,
I just hope we will be free

Jason lamorris rivers Copyright ©2011